Thursday, January 13, 2011
I met B online. We were brought together by our love of General Hospital. (Well, really, it was Sonny and Alexis, but that's another story.) We met on a chatboard for GH. That year we decided to go to Fan Club Weekend in California and she asked if I wanted to room with her. Of course! We didn't meet face to face until we both got to the Atlanta airport! But from the moment we met, it was like we'd known each other our whole lives. It's almost scary how alike we are. I know it scares our husbands sometimes. LOL We try to make it a point to see each other once a year. We even vacationed at their house one summer. We're going on 2 years not seeing each other, though, and I think we're going thru withdrawals!! We've both dropped GH because it got bad and stupid but we found so much more in common. We love celeb gossip, we love Coach bags, we love to shop, we love to snark! I would love for B and Lise to meet. They would LOVE each other. The 3 of us together could be dangerous.
My birthday is later this month and B has already sent me the most amazing gift. It's a soul friend necklace. (Pictured above) On one side it says soul friend and on the other it says Anam Cara which is the Celtic spiritual belief that when you connect with another person and form a deep bond, your souls begin to flow together. The “Anam Cara” was originally someone to whom you confessed, revealing the hidden intimacies of your life. With the “Anam Cara”, you could share your innermost self, your mind and your heart. This friendship was an act of recognition and belonging. When you had an “Anam Cara”, your friendship cut across all convention, morality and category. You were joined in an ancient and eternal way with the “friend of your soul”. The Celtic understanding did not set limitations of space or time on the soul. There is no cage for the soul. The soul is a divine light that flows into you and into your Other.
B is the baby of 5 girls and Lise has 5 siblings. I am so lucky to have found both of these women and they are both like sisters to me. B's daughter invited me to her wedding and said that I was like family and she wanted me there. <sniff> And Lise's kids all call me Aunt Joy. Both of these women are honest with me. If something doesn't look good, they tell me. If they think I'm wrong, they tell me. We don't always agree on everything. I mean, really, WHO DOES? But it doesn't matter. Friends don't have to agree on everything. They are the ones I call when I want to bitch or cry or celebrate. They accept me as I am, flaws and all, and I accept them. It sucks that B lives so far away! We've always joked that if, God forbid, something happened to our husbands, we would just marry each other! LOL Of course, we'd have to move to a state that allows that...
I feel like both of them are the sisters I never had, soul sisters. And I thank God every day for bringing both of them into my life. I love you, Girls!!
I hope each of you has at least one person in your life that you can call your soul friend!
Oh, I need an outfit pic, don't I?
Speaking of friends, everyone go read this account of Gabrielle Giffords opening her eyes for her friends. It's amazing and heartwarming!